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[0:10] Dear respected teacher,
[0:13] dear family,
[0:17] today is the
[0:19] 29th day of December, the year 2025.
[0:26] In two days, we'll celebrate together
[0:29] the new year.
[0:34] I'm very grateful that you are here with
[0:37] us
[0:40] during this important
[0:43] moment of the year.
[0:45] As monastics, we cannot celebrate new
[0:48] year without family.
[0:52] and you come here to
[0:56] celebrate the new year with us. You are
[0:59] our family
[1:02] and we are trying our best to make your
[1:06] stay here
[1:08] the best time of the year for you.
[1:15] And after a full day of practice
[1:18] yesterday, I want to congratulate all of
[1:21] you. you have um
[1:25] attained
[1:27] a very important fruit
[1:33] in the practice.
[1:35] I would like to read a poem written by
[1:39] our teacher.
[1:46] The first fion of the practice
[1:50] is the attainment
[1:52] of froglessness.
[1:56] Have you ever heard that word
[1:58] froglessness?
[2:01] When a frog is put on the center of a
[2:05] plate,
[2:06] she will jump out of the plate after
[2:09] just a few seconds.
[2:13] If you put the frog back again on the
[2:16] center of the plate, he will again jump
[2:20] out.
[2:23] You have so many plans. There is
[2:26] something you want to become.
[2:28] Therefore, you always want to make a
[2:31] leap. A leap forward.
[2:36] It is difficult to keep the frog still
[2:39] on the center of the plate.
[2:43] You and I both have Buddha nature in us.
[2:48] This is encouraging.
[2:50] But you and I both have frog nature in
[2:54] us.
[2:58] That is why the first attainment of the
[3:02] practice froglessness
[3:05] is its name
[3:11] and let's congratulate each others. We
[3:14] have attained frocklessness.
[3:18] I've seen the my [laughter] brother
[3:23] yesterday the whole day we have
[3:25] practiced together and I know that some
[3:29] of you many or many of you come here and
[3:34] you come because you want to meditate
[3:40] or some
[3:42] come because this is the only vacation
[3:46] time of the here
[3:50] and you come
[3:53] and yesterday the whole day we had
[3:58] sitting meditation,
[4:00] walking meditation,
[4:02] dh sharing silent meals
[4:06] and maybe for some of you it was the
[4:08] first time that
[4:12] you you could sit still for more than
[4:14] half an
[4:17] And the fact that we can sit still, we
[4:21] are not a frog, right? We attain
[4:25] frocklessness.
[4:29] I don't know yet how you meditated in
[4:32] your mind, but the fact that your body
[4:35] can sit still.
[4:38] So let's say already half of you
[4:43] are still can be still
[4:49] and
[4:51] just the fact that
[4:55] you walked slowly,
[4:59] you didn't run.
[5:04] I don't know what you thought in your
[5:08] mind but just the fact that I saw you
[5:12] walk slowly
[5:16] like that I saw that your body
[5:19] was still even in the walking
[5:23] position you didn't run you stopped
[5:26] running
[5:29] and seeing you sitting
[5:32] eating in silence
[5:35] chewing your food.
[5:40] Even if you thought
[5:42] somewhere else, but your body
[5:47] stop running
[5:50] and
[5:51] and because eating with the whole
[5:54] community,
[5:57] you have to slow down, right? Before the
[6:01] two sounds of the bell, you you can't
[6:03] stand up.
[6:06] So the whole community and the
[6:09] collective energy helps you to slow down
[6:14] and you have some stillness in your body
[6:20] and during dharma sharing you sat and
[6:24] listened. You didn't interrupt anyone.
[6:29] I was surprised
[6:31] when I went home and visited my family
[6:35] and I realized that I grew up in a
[6:39] family
[6:41] where everyone interrupted each other.
[6:44] Everyone is still interrupting
[6:48] each other.
[6:52] And yesterday
[6:55] for
[6:58] an hour and a half or more, you sat
[7:00] still, you listened,
[7:03] you didn't interrupt anyone.
[7:07] Just one day yesterday, we already
[7:12] see the fruit
[7:15] of our practice, the fruit of
[7:18] froglessness.
[7:20] And I know for some of you it's not
[7:24] easy.
[7:27] Before coming here, you've had to run
[7:31] with your work with lots of things to do
[7:35] with your family. Especially at the end
[7:38] of the year during this period of time,
[7:40] you everyone has to wrap up to finish
[7:45] everything at work, at school.
[7:49] We have to make reports,
[7:52] financial report, accounting report. I
[7:55] know my brothers had a
[7:58] hard time doing it even in the
[8:00] monastery, my brothers and sisters.
[8:07] And
[8:09] have we made a report of ourselves
[8:20] this year? Has it been a happy year for
[8:23] us?
[8:28] Am I a happy person?
[8:35] And we have two more days to make this
[8:37] report for ourself.
[8:39] If we want to start a new year with a
[8:44] new me
[8:50] and to do it,
[8:52] we need clarity.
[8:57] We all have the experience
[9:01] that we
[9:03] think when we have some difficulties, we
[9:07] want to find solutions
[9:10] and we think a lot. We think hard.
[9:14] But the more we think,
[9:18] the more we feel stuck.
[9:20] Did you have this experience? Who?
[9:26] Thank you.
[9:37] And we think that if we stop thinking,
[9:43] we don't find solutions. If we stop
[9:47] thinking,
[9:48] so we need to think to figure out to
[9:52] find a solution.
[9:57] And someone
[10:00] um one of my friends who who are here
[10:06] he told me no no no I I think too much
[10:09] and he unders he sees he can feel that
[10:13] too much thinking
[10:15] doesn't help
[10:18] and
[10:20] in meditation in our tradition
[10:23] we need to the first thing we need to
[10:26] stop
[10:28] thinking. We need to stop running in our
[10:31] mind. And our teacher said that there's
[10:34] a radio in our mind,
[10:39] a non-stop radio
[10:43] and we need to stop it. And it's not
[10:46] easy when
[10:48] it's like a fan. Even when you start the
[10:51] fan, it still runs for a while. The
[10:56] momentum is there and it still runs for
[10:58] a while. So
[11:03] don't
[11:04] don't think that oh I'm here I want to
[11:07] attain something but I'm so frustrated
[11:11] because I can't meditate. I can't
[11:16] I can't do walking meditation as I
[11:18] wished
[11:22] but I see that you have attained a lot.
[11:27] You already
[11:31] you have done a lot.
[11:40] The
[11:42] the most important thing is to remember
[11:47] we know we know that here we practice
[11:51] mindful breathing. When I breathe in I'm
[11:55] aware of my inb breath when I breathe
[11:58] out I'm aware of my outreath but as soon
[12:03] as I breathe out I already think of
[12:05] something else.
[12:09] I try hard but I can be mindful just
[12:13] with my inb breath not with my outreath
[12:17] but it's okay
[12:21] [clears throat]
[12:22] our body.
[12:35] [clears throat]
[12:36] Please
[12:53] >> [bell]
[13:08] >> It's okay to forget because the sound of
[13:10] the bell will remind us
[13:14] and the sound of the bell in our phone
[13:17] will remind is
[13:26] and you know I was I was very surprised.
[13:30] I was very happy to read an article in
[13:34] um published in December 8th of this
[13:38] month by new scientist.
[13:45] An article wrote a story
[13:49] of someone who came here to Plum Village
[13:53] in the the upper hamlet. this hamlet
[14:09] and [clears throat] he wanted to test
[14:11] how long he he could spend in sitting
[14:14] meditation.
[14:16] So he by himself he came in this
[14:18] meditation hall and he sat by himself
[14:22] and he could sit for 3 hours
[14:26] and he was very happy and he went and
[14:29] talked to a monk I don't know who
[14:33] maybe that monk will let us know
[14:37] and he proudly told that monk that you
[14:40] know I just had 3 hours of sitting
[14:43] meditation
[14:45] And to his surprise, that monk just
[14:48] simply smiled at him and he asked,
[14:52] "Three hours?
[14:55] How about three breaths?
[14:58] That's all you need to tune in the
[15:00] present moment."
[15:04] And that practitioner
[15:07] was quite disappointed with the the
[15:10] response of the monk. And he was really
[15:12] curious how come three breaths. And when
[15:16] he went back to his university,
[15:21] University of California, Berkeley,
[15:25] and for his psychology PhD, he set out
[15:29] to investigate whether such a brief
[15:32] period of contemplation could really
[15:35] reset someone's thinking and bring about
[15:38] a meaningful change in their mental
[15:41] state.
[15:46] And then he found out that many re
[15:49] researchers
[15:54] confirm that they call microdosing
[15:58] mindfulness
[16:03] has big health benefits.
[16:10] And even
[16:12] that mindfulness practice lasts only a
[16:15] minute or less can have an unexpected
[16:20] benefits for those with busy lives.
[16:24] According to a growing body of research
[16:27] from teams around the world, those who
[16:30] complete extraordinary brief exercises
[16:34] lasting as little as 20 seconds a day
[16:39] report
[16:42] feeling peace and joy that
[16:46] continue long after the exercise ends
[16:50] by breaking ruminative thoughts cycles.
[16:54] and calming the physiological stress
[16:58] response.
[17:02] So this practice
[17:06] that looks so simple and easy.
[17:14] It's is very important.
[17:17] And you know 50 years ago
[17:22] our teacher set up this practice,
[17:27] set up this tradition
[17:30] and
[17:32] there was no telephone,
[17:35] there was no research
[17:39] and he set up this tradition because he
[17:41] loves us. He know he he knew that
[17:46] our habit is to forget.
[17:49] We want he knew that we couldn't
[17:51] remember to practice mindful breathing
[17:54] all day long
[17:57] like him. So
[18:00] he set up this tradition. Whenever we
[18:04] hear the sound of the bell,
[18:07] we just stop everything. We stop our
[18:13] our body. Whatever we are doing, we stop
[18:17] our thinking and we just come back to
[18:20] our breath
[18:23] and be aware of our inb breath and
[18:26] outreath.
[18:32] And when we get used to this practice,
[18:36] when we go out of plumbage,
[18:39] when we hear the church bell, when we
[18:41] hear the horn,
[18:44] when we
[18:46] when we hear when we see the red light,
[18:50] we can take all these
[18:53] images or sounds as the sounds of the
[18:58] mindfulness bell.
[19:00] And today we are so lucky because
[19:04] we have Plum Village apps. We have um
[19:08] mindfulness bell to download
[19:11] on our computer everywhere. We have all
[19:14] the tools and it's much easier
[19:18] and we just take a few seconds
[19:22] to remind us and then we remember to
[19:25] continue whatever we are doing, whatever
[19:28] we are saying with more awareness
[19:32] and the effect [clears throat]
[19:36] last.
[19:40] And just imagine that if we are reminded
[19:44] and remember every 15 minutes
[19:49] and the effect is maybe even more than a
[19:53] long session of sitting meditation.
[19:57] And this is what we
[20:00] what we try to to do with you so that
[20:04] when we you go home you can continue.
[20:07] you can bring the practice home because
[20:09] we we know that at home you can't afford
[20:13] half an hour or an hour of sitting
[20:17] meditation or walking meditation every
[20:19] morning
[20:21] or even every day.
[20:24] So if you take this simple practice home
[20:30] and you don't need extra time,
[20:34] you can bring meditation
[20:37] to work, to home. And when you come back
[20:41] to your breathing, you find a place,
[20:48] a cozy place.
[20:51] You know, in winter it's cold outside.
[20:57] And in the new hamlet, I see our friends
[21:00] really enjoy sitting at the fireplace,
[21:03] enjoying the
[21:06] the warmth and we close all the windows,
[21:10] all the doors. We stay cozy and warm
[21:14] indoor.
[21:17] And every time when we come back to our
[21:21] mindful breathing,
[21:23] we also come back to
[21:26] an intimate place,
[21:31] a cozy place where there's care,
[21:35] awareness,
[21:37] love.
[21:40] We have spent the whole year taking care
[21:43] of millions of things. We take care of
[21:46] our family. We take care of work.
[21:51] We take care of many people's.
[21:58] And did you remember to take care of
[22:00] yourself?
[22:08] This is the time. We have two days left
[22:13] to really take care of ourselves
[22:18] to love us because
[22:22] you are the only one who can do it to
[22:25] yourself. The others even they love you.
[22:28] Everything thing they can do is just to
[22:32] support you.
[22:36] But only you can be aware
[22:41] of your of your own breathing
[22:45] of your own body.
[22:50] In our busy life,
[22:53] we work a lot with computers, with um
[22:57] our phone, with devices
[23:03] and all those devices
[23:07] take all our attention
[23:12] and we are so concentrated
[23:15] with those device devices that
[23:19] very often and very easily we forget our
[23:23] body. Our mind is always somewhere else.
[23:29] And how can how can we take care of
[23:31] ourselves if we are not if our mind is
[23:36] far away? If our mind is not with our
[23:39] body,
[23:43] you are the only one who can take care
[23:46] of your body.
[23:49] who can see and feel whether there's
[23:53] some tension, some stress in your body.
[23:57] And you are the only one who can release
[24:01] this tension and stress
[24:06] at any moment. Even if you go to spa and
[24:10] someone massage you,
[24:14] maybe you can relax a little bit and
[24:18] then the tension can come back
[24:22] and you are the only one who can release
[24:26] the tension and the stress at any moment
[24:28] you want. Several times a day, at any
[24:32] time. And it's free.
[24:36] >> [clears throat]
[24:36] >> You don't need to pay.
[24:47] And I know that some of you have have to
[24:52] struggle to come back and stay
[24:57] with your breathing because it's not
[25:00] your habit.
[25:05] And here
[25:08] even
[25:10] even you don't you cannot do as you wish
[25:14] but I see that
[25:17] you are smiling.
[25:20] You are quite joyful because you have
[25:23] friends around you.
[25:25] You are hold by a collective energy
[25:30] of mindfulness,
[25:33] of love, of support.
[25:36] And even if we cannot do as we wish, but
[25:39] we feel comfortable, we feel supported,
[25:42] we can smile,
[25:45] we have joy,
[25:48] and it's much easier to be here
[25:51] practicing together than to stay at
[25:53] home. Do you agree with me?
[26:05] And we need joy [clears throat]
[26:08] to be nourished to continue on our path.
[26:14] We need it.
[26:16] And that's why we come together.
[26:20] And when you go home, if you want to
[26:24] continue
[26:26] on this joyful path,
[26:31] if you want to
[26:33] stay on this path, you need friends.
[26:38] And even you have the feeling that you
[26:40] don't go forward, but just stay on the
[26:44] path. Just stand there.
[26:47] You feel safe.
[26:50] You have seen the path and just staying
[26:53] on the path.
[26:56] Even you have the feeling you haven't go
[26:58] forward. You haven't gone forward.
[27:02] But it's already good, right?
[27:07] You don't lose the path. You stay on the
[27:10] path thanks to friends, to your
[27:13] community, to your sa
[27:17] because we we always need supports from
[27:20] each other.
[27:36] >> [music]
[27:42] [bell]
[28:09] >> There were moments when
[28:12] we were in a party or in a market and we
[28:18] hear lots of noises, lots of sounds and
[28:21] it's so noisy to the point that we can't
[28:25] hear anything.
[28:28] When there's too much noise, too many
[28:31] noises,
[28:33] we can't hear anything.
[28:36] And we want to step out of
[28:39] that place.
[28:42] And the silence makes us feel so good.
[28:47] And in the silence
[28:49] we can hear the smallest sound
[29:00] and same thing when we sometime in front
[29:03] of a big screen in the movie and we saw
[29:06] so many images
[29:10] and we we were so tired and we closed
[29:12] our eyes when we when there was when
[29:16] there's too many images we don't see
[29:19] anything
[29:20] and we want to close our eyes it's too
[29:24] much
[29:26] and same thing when there's so many
[29:28] thoughts in our mind
[29:32] we need to stop it's too tiring
[29:38] and the mindful breathing helps us the
[29:41] mindful brea breathing
[29:44] helps us create the space.
[29:50] Find the silence.
[29:53] Find the silence to hear more,
[29:58] to create the space
[30:00] to see more.
[30:06] You have heard, you've just heard the
[30:08] the monastic chant,
[30:13] a French chant and an English chant.
[30:20] [clears throat]
[30:24] And um
[30:28] the the first line of the English chant
[30:31] is
[30:33] the Buddha is like the fresh full moon
[30:36] that soarses across the immense sky.
[30:40] When the leg of the mind is calm,
[30:44] the water perfectly mirror
[30:48] the radiance of the moon
[30:51] and our mind is like that leg.
[30:57] When there's so many thoughts,
[31:00] there are so many ways and we can't see,
[31:04] we can't reflect
[31:06] the reality of things, the truth and we
[31:10] don't see things clearly.
[31:13] Only when
[31:16] our mind is calm
[31:19] and then we can see clearly things and
[31:23] how to calm down our mind
[31:28] is with the mindful breath
[31:32] with mindful breathing
[31:36] we can calm down. We can stop the
[31:40] thinking and calm down our mind.
[32:01] Can we together
[32:05] feel
[32:08] the calmness in us
[32:12] With our mindful breathing,
[32:29] [music]
[32:37] [bell]
[33:01] So as I said before there there are
[33:04] moments when we want to close
[33:08] our senses. is
[33:12] it's like when in winter we want to
[33:17] close all the windows and doors and to
[33:20] stay next to the fireplace with
[33:24] warmth
[33:27] and in us there's this place and we can
[33:31] touch it, we can find it with our
[33:33] mindful breathing.
[33:36] Deep in us
[33:38] there's uh love,
[33:41] enlightenment
[33:44] and we are not only our thinking.
[33:48] Our consciousness
[33:50] thinking is a small part of our
[33:53] consciousness.
[33:55] We also have store consciousness.
[33:59] The store consciousness
[34:03] is much bigger and in it we have all
[34:09] we have everything.
[34:11] We have all the seeds that we have
[34:14] received from our ancestors, from our
[34:18] environment.
[34:24] And we need to trust our store
[34:27] consciousness.
[34:29] It is like the earth that has all the
[34:33] beautiful seeds.
[34:36] And there are moments when we want to
[34:39] find solutions. We think we we think
[34:42] that I I need to think hard. We believe
[34:46] that I need to think hard to find
[34:49] solutions.
[34:51] But we need to trust our store
[34:53] consciousness. Only when we stop
[34:56] thinking
[34:58] to return
[35:01] to this place of calmness of peace and
[35:05] our mind
[35:06] is calm like
[35:09] that lake that can reflect the clear
[35:12] moon the the bright moon
[35:15] and then from our store consciousness
[35:20] insights will come up Because when we
[35:25] breathe mindfully
[35:27] with our mindful breathing, we are in
[35:29] touch with our store consciousness. We
[35:33] can be in touch with
[35:36] the love,
[35:38] the insights,
[35:40] the peace
[35:42] in this cozy place
[35:46] and then insights can come up.
[35:51] Many times when you drive a car
[35:56] and sometime you don't think and then
[35:58] you know the way you just continue to
[36:00] drive home without thinking
[36:04] or suddenly there's there's a
[36:07] a bird right in front of you
[36:11] on the street and very quickly without
[36:14] thinking you try to avoid
[36:18] that bird.
[36:22] So you see that your store conscious
[36:24] know your store consciousness know what
[36:27] to do.
[36:30] We need to trust it. We can stop
[36:35] thinking. We allow our intellectual mind
[36:40] to take a break so that our store
[36:42] consciousness
[36:44] can offer
[36:47] more insight.
[36:50] And only with the m mindful breathing
[36:54] you can water the best seeds
[36:58] in your store consciousness for for them
[37:01] to manifest.
[37:07] So
[37:10] for the next two days
[37:13] for clarity
[37:15] to be there, for insights to be there
[37:19] together we will enjoy
[37:24] the practice of mindful breathing,
[37:27] mindful walking.
[37:30] We can come back to ourself and reflect
[37:32] and make a report
[37:35] for the new year, for the end of the
[37:38] year and write a resolution for the new
[37:41] year.
[37:43] And we need to have the courage
[37:47] because sometimes we know we have
[37:50] certain habits and we know that if we we
[37:55] are not a happy person
[37:57] it is because we have some habits
[38:00] and for the new year we want to become
[38:05] new
[38:06] with new habits
[38:09] but without the courage we cannot make a
[38:13] big change in our daily life.
[38:19] I was very touched when
[38:23] when last week during the Christmas
[38:26] retreat
[38:28] during the reading after the sitting
[38:32] meditation
[38:35] we listen to
[38:38] a section
[38:40] of uh from the book the sun my heart
[38:44] don't leave your fate in the hands of
[38:47] others.
[38:50] When we grow up as teens, we want to be
[38:52] free and we don't want our parents to
[38:57] control us.
[38:59] We don't want our parents to
[39:03] to to
[39:05] tell us what to do. We want to be a free
[39:07] person.
[39:11] And now we are adults.
[39:17] Are we free people? Am I a free person?
[39:22] My parents don't
[39:25] control me, but maybe many other things
[39:29] are controlling me.
[39:36] the media,
[39:39] advertisements,
[39:44] the collective consciousness
[39:48] at work.
[39:52] And
[39:56] I'm not the one who decide my life.
[40:01] If I'm not mindful, I can just
[40:05] flow with everyone
[40:09] and I allow
[40:12] all the sounds, all the images
[40:17] to tell me what to do.
[40:22] I think that I'm a free person. I move
[40:25] out of my parents house. I'm an adult.
[40:29] I'm a free person.
[40:34] But am I sure?
[40:43] So
[40:48] we want to please make good use of every
[40:52] moment
[40:54] today, tomorrow and after tomorrow
[40:59] to come back to your breathing to your
[41:03] mindful breathing
[41:06] to establish calmness, peace, clarity.
[41:15] and write down your resolution for the
[41:18] new year. What do you really want?
[41:32] When we have the capacity to stop
[41:37] thinking, to stop running
[41:42] and to come back to ourselves,
[41:46] body and mind together, we are the best
[41:48] of ourself.
[41:50] We see things clearly
[41:56] and we listen to ourselves.
[42:01] What have made me unhappy?
[42:05] What are the causes? The causes of my
[42:08] unhappiness.
[42:33] >> [bell]
[42:33] [music]
[42:39] [bell]
[42:42] >> Let me see.
[42:58] The simple fact that you are here means
[43:01] that you don't want to cover up your
[43:04] suffering with consumption
[43:07] with parties.
[43:13] You want to
[43:15] face your suffering.
[43:18] And when we are in touch with our
[43:22] suffering and when we understand
[43:27] our suffering,
[43:30] we have love for ourselves.
[43:33] We have compassion for ourselves.
[43:39] [clears throat]
[43:43] And we are the ones who
[43:46] the only ones who can really love
[43:48] ourselves.
[43:50] Can we bring us joy?
[43:53] Can we reduce the suffering?
[43:59] Can we reduce our own suffering?
[44:03] If we are capable to
[44:06] reduce our own suffering and to bring us
[44:09] joy and happiness, this is true love. we
[44:12] really love ourselves.
[44:15] Last week, Sister Hoim talked about true
[44:17] love.
[44:24] And every time when we stop running in
[44:27] in our thought and we come back to our
[44:30] breathing, we are fully present
[44:34] and then we can we are capable to bring
[44:38] joy to ourselves.
[44:43] with our awareness
[44:46] knowing
[44:48] that I'm in good health.
[44:52] I have a
[44:54] healthy body.
[45:03] I can see the children around me with
[45:06] their joy.
[45:09] You know the the
[45:12] we the sisters we are very happy with
[45:15] the presence of the children
[45:18] during the holiday retreat during this
[45:20] period of time. Every summer we play we
[45:25] enjoy the children and this is the
[45:27] second time of the year.
[45:31] We
[45:32] I see other sisters are very happy and
[45:36] just by looking at the children we can
[45:39] have joy.
[45:42] We are happy because we are not too
[45:44] busy.
[45:46] We every day we have the chance to sit
[45:49] still
[45:51] to walk in nature. [clears throat]
[45:57] We can recognize
[45:59] and have simple joy. We can recognize
[46:02] all the conditions and can create joy
[46:06] for ourself because we we are aware of
[46:09] them and right away we can bring joy to
[46:13] ourselves.
[46:21] And when we have some joy,
[46:24] we have some peace in us and we have
[46:27] more energy, more strength, more
[46:30] solidity
[46:32] to look at our suffering.
[46:36] We need to be honest with ourselves,
[46:41] to look at our suffering. And when we
[46:44] are when we are in really in touch with
[46:47] our suffering
[46:50] our heart
[46:54] softens.
[46:55] We don't blame ourself
[47:01] but we want we smile to our own
[47:05] suffering and we want to take care of
[47:07] it.
[47:46] So the first thing
[47:49] we are training ourselves to do here
[47:53] together is
[47:56] to come back to ourselves, take care of
[47:58] our body
[48:00] and to release the tension.
[48:16] The tension. There's some tension on our
[48:19] shoulders.
[48:21] Can you feel it?
[48:26] There's some tension
[48:30] in our mind.
[48:32] Can you feel it?
[48:36] I want There's only two days left. I
[48:39] want to do this. I want to do that.
[48:47] Only with mindful breathing we can
[48:49] recognize
[48:51] those tensions, physical tension or
[48:54] mental tension.
[48:58] I encourage you to practice
[49:02] those last two days that I don't want to
[49:04] cause any pressure or tension.
[49:15] And then the second thing is
[49:25] to create
[49:28] simple joy
[49:35] or or to offer ourselves the simple joy.
[49:40] Just [clears throat] by remembering
[49:42] what we are having, what we have
[49:46] here
[49:47] in our person, in our body and around us
[49:55] and to listen
[50:02] to ourself.
[50:10] to listen to our
[50:13] [clears throat]
[50:14] painful feelings
[50:26] or suffering.
[50:35] And when we listen
[50:38] to ourselves to the painful feelings and
[50:40] to suffering, don't forget the mindful
[50:44] breathing. Because if you forget your
[50:47] mindful breathing, you can be carried
[50:49] away by those feelings, by these strong
[50:54] emotions. And every time
[50:58] you come back to your breathing,
[51:02] you are cultivating the energy of
[51:04] mindfulness that you can and with that
[51:08] energy of mindfulness you embrace
[51:11] your feelings, your painful feelings,
[51:13] your suffering and you are safe.
[51:20] During the dharma sharing,
[51:23] we are encouraged to practice uh mindful
[51:27] breathing when we listen to sharings and
[51:30] also to recognize what is happening in
[51:33] our mind.
[51:35] If some judging thoughts come up and
[51:40] then we can look at and we smile at it
[51:44] and then we know and we can see that
[51:47] when we look at it and we smile at it,
[51:50] it slowly comes down.
[51:54] And same thing with our
[51:57] strong emotions,
[51:59] our painful feelings. [snorts]
[52:02] When we listen to them,
[52:04] we can smile at them with our mindful
[52:06] breathing. And we can sit, we can listen
[52:11] to it for 5 minutes, 10 minutes during
[52:16] the sitting meditation or walking
[52:19] meditation.
[52:22] We need to stick to the mindful
[52:25] breathing
[52:27] in order to embrace
[52:31] our suffering or our painful feelings.
[52:38] If we forget
[52:40] dangerous, we can get drowned in it.
[52:46] And that is why
[52:49] um we have uh we also have guided
[52:52] meditation during the retreat to remind
[52:56] you with the sound of the bell with the
[52:59] guidance.
[53:01] The guided meditation remind you what to
[53:05] do with your inb breath,
[53:08] with your outer breath
[53:11] so that you can embrace
[53:16] your pain and your suffering.
[53:34] It's very important to
[53:39] to remember
[53:42] all the conditions around you and to
[53:46] appreciate
[53:48] and to create joy, simple joy by
[53:52] remembering them. You need to do it. We
[53:55] need to do it every day at every moment
[53:57] when we remember so that we can
[54:04] [clears throat] establish a balance
[54:08] balance between joy and pain
[54:11] and suffering.
[54:14] We can cultivate some solidity in us.
[54:26] And with
[54:28] this joy
[54:31] we can restore ourself
[54:43] to have enough
[54:47] peace
[54:49] and strength
[54:51] to deal with our pain and suffering.
[54:56] If the pain and suffering are too much
[54:59] and then we need to we need to come back
[55:04] to the second step
[55:07] to cultivate more joy, more stability,
[55:12] more solidity.
[55:31] >> [clears throat]
[56:02] >> When we come back to ourself,
[56:05] we can recognize that
[56:09] in our body, in our habits, in our way
[56:13] of thinking
[56:16] there, our parents, our ancestors,
[56:22] our teachers,
[56:25] many of our family members,
[56:28] our environment,
[56:30] and we see that
[56:34] I'm not me. I'm made of
[56:39] many, many elements of non-me.
[56:43] I'm made of my environment,
[56:46] of my ancestors,
[56:49] blood ancestors, and spiritual
[56:52] ancestors.
[56:55] And I see the other person in front of
[56:58] me
[57:01] is also
[57:03] that person is made of everything
[57:06] everyone.
[57:10] And clarity means uh right view.
[57:17] When we have right view
[57:33] [clears throat]
[57:37] [bell]
[57:40] [music]
[57:42] >> [bell]
[57:47] [bell]
[58:02] >> When we have bright view, we have
[58:04] naturally we have right thinking, we
[58:07] have right speech, we have right action.
[58:13] And in the study of um
[58:18] of consciousness
[58:22] and in Buddhism in short in Buddhism the
[58:25] mind is um
[58:29] the mind is like an artist who can draws
[58:33] and paint anything
[58:36] they like.
[58:38] The mind plays the leading leading role
[58:42] and our speech and our actions are just
[58:44] manifestation of our our mind. And when
[58:50] we have bright view, our thoughts are
[58:53] right, our speech is right and our
[58:57] actions are right.
[59:00] And when
[59:04] our thoughts, speech and actions are
[59:06] right,
[59:07] they don't c cause suffering.
[59:10] They can bring happiness and joy to
[59:13] ourself and to others,
[59:15] but they but not suffering.
[59:20] When I see that my mom
[59:24] if she has that habit
[59:28] of
[59:31] scolding
[59:34] scolding us
[59:37] and when I with the right view with the
[59:39] right thinking I see that oh it's a
[59:41] habit
[59:43] from generation to generation
[59:46] my mom is part of
[59:50] this uh
[59:52] this long
[59:55] long long tradition habit of scolding
[59:59] [clears throat] the children. And when I
[1:00:01] see it, I don't blame my mom. I'm not
[1:00:03] angry with her.
[1:00:07] And when I'm not angry with her but
[1:00:12] when I'm not and then I my speech won't
[1:00:17] be
[1:00:19] blaming speech
[1:00:23] and not only I'm not angry with my mom
[1:00:25] but I have love for my mom because I
[1:00:28] know that she was also
[1:00:32] scolded a lot by by her parents during
[1:00:35] her childhood and even when
[1:00:40] she has grown up.
[1:00:45] So the right thinking with the right
[1:00:48] thinking my speech
[1:00:51] becomes uh naturally loving speech
[1:00:56] because I understand
[1:00:59] I understand the other person's
[1:01:01] suffering and I when I understand I have
[1:01:04] love
[1:01:11] And so it's very important to have a
[1:01:16] [clears throat]
[1:01:17] right view
[1:01:19] and to have right view.
[1:01:23] We need clarity.
[1:01:27] We need to stop
[1:01:33] to attain frocklessness.
[1:02:11] So I could like to leave 10 minutes for
[1:02:15] those of you who have maybe we have time
[1:02:18] for one or or two questions if you have
[1:02:23] a burning question.
[1:02:26] If not, we can also stop here.
[1:02:57] >> [clears throat]
[1:03:06] >> Dear dear Tai,
[1:03:09] dear sister,
[1:03:11] um thank you for the talk so far.
[1:03:14] Um one question coming up um several
[1:03:18] times for me in my uh life of practice
[1:03:23] is the second point you mentioned about
[1:03:25] uh creating simple joy
[1:03:29] and I think it's quite interesting
[1:03:31] because generally I would say yes I love
[1:03:34] creating moments of simple joy and I see
[1:03:36] the beauty of it but it's kind of
[1:03:41] almost shocking that if I'm in my
[1:03:45] ruminous thought cycles. How little
[1:03:48] interest I have in creating moments of
[1:03:51] simple joy and how little capacity I
[1:03:54] also have.
[1:03:59] So
[1:04:01] I might know that I want to go outside
[1:04:03] for a walk to yeah maybe release tension
[1:04:06] and enjoy the flower. And maybe I even
[1:04:09] get there and I see the flower, but this
[1:04:11] flower just doesn't give me anything. I
[1:04:13] just like I know that this might be a
[1:04:17] good source of joy. But yeah, so
[1:04:19] sometimes I find myself in states that
[1:04:22] might go throughout the whole day um
[1:04:25] where I'm not able to touch simple joy
[1:04:27] and I'm just wondering if you can share
[1:04:28] out of your experience.
[1:04:30] >> Thank you.
[1:04:32] >> What do you like the most?
[1:04:34] eating [laughter]
[1:04:37] sugar
[1:04:42] [laughter]
[1:04:45] and that's not helpful [laughter]
[1:04:52] besides eating. [laughter]
[1:04:56] You know in the last Dama talk sister
[1:04:59] Chungduk Annabelle
[1:05:02] um talked about eating with moderation.
[1:05:05] So that's why I asked you beside eating
[1:05:07] what else do you like [clears throat]
[1:05:09] the most?
[1:05:12] >> Yeah, I think besides of that I feel
[1:05:15] very lucky that I'm living in community.
[1:05:17] Um because I might feel like it and
[1:05:20] everything I could plan and
[1:05:21] intentionally do doesn't get me out of
[1:05:23] there. But just like seeing my roommate
[1:05:25] coming in and doing something like
[1:05:29] unexpected things really get me out and
[1:05:31] then with the help of my friends to go
[1:05:33] out or so and just kind of like
[1:05:36] connecting and catching their energy
[1:05:38] this really helps me. So being connected
[1:05:40] to community um but this again like
[1:05:44] myself I feel so helpless in these
[1:05:46] moments. How can I myself get out?
[1:05:52] And I guess what helped me there is
[1:05:53] maybe like just letting go. One time I
[1:05:56] just um pretended like I'm dying. So I
[1:05:59] just lay on the ground and thought like
[1:06:01] okay now everything is ending and it
[1:06:03] kind of really allowed me to whatever it
[1:06:05] is that bugs me that I cannot let go of
[1:06:08] this there I could let go of but it also
[1:06:10] just happened one time. So like this
[1:06:13] idea of like yeah um I'm not I'm not
[1:06:15] feeling nice and do something that gives
[1:06:17] joy. this is this doesn't sit in me so
[1:06:20] much
[1:06:22] >> you know uh there's a very nice practice
[1:06:24] in Buddhism is joining the joy of the
[1:06:28] others when you feel when you see that
[1:06:32] um your roommates they are
[1:06:36] enjoying they have joy
[1:06:39] doing something or when they um with the
[1:06:44] fruit of their practice and they have
[1:06:46] some joy
[1:06:48] And you join the other person's joy. You
[1:06:53] join the other person's fruits of the
[1:06:56] practice. And it can also
[1:06:59] um bring you lots of joy
[1:07:02] and is the advantage to live in a
[1:07:05] community to have friends in the
[1:07:07] practice.
[1:07:10] And
[1:07:13] I wrote down simple joy because in my
[1:07:16] mind I thought of the song that we often
[1:07:19] sing but actually this simple joy we say
[1:07:23] simple but it can be a deep joy.
[1:07:27] Just the fact that and sometime we
[1:07:31] we lose something and then when we find
[1:07:34] it again and then we can experience that
[1:07:37] deep joy.
[1:07:40] But the fact is that we with time and
[1:07:42] then we get used to and then we don't
[1:07:44] have joy anymore. I remember for just a
[1:07:48] few years ago it was such a joy and
[1:07:51] happiness for us not to wear mask. Do
[1:07:55] you remember?
[1:07:57] And now we forget that joy.
[1:08:01] So sometime we need to
[1:08:03] with our um mindfulness we go back to
[1:08:07] the past to remember how it was to
[1:08:11] remember that now
[1:08:13] it's great.
[1:08:16] It's a happiness. It's a joy for us.
[1:08:19] And that is why um
[1:08:23] we often talk about the goodness of
[1:08:25] suffering because we when we remember
[1:08:29] the suffering of the past and then we
[1:08:32] remember now that suffering is gone and
[1:08:35] then we can
[1:08:37] feel joy and happiness and so
[1:08:40] is the nature of interbeing of suffering
[1:08:44] and happiness.
[1:08:46] If you have an
[1:08:49] gone through the war or or
[1:08:52] if you are not in touch of the war and
[1:08:55] then you cannot appreciate
[1:08:57] peace
[1:09:01] or if you are not hungry, you cannot
[1:09:05] appreciate food.
[1:09:09] If you're hungry and you hear the sound
[1:09:10] of the bell for meal time and then you
[1:09:12] are very happy. But if you are full,
[1:09:17] you don't feel the need of food and you
[1:09:20] don't appreciate food. Right?
[1:09:24] M.
[1:09:25] So remember is very important to
[1:09:29] remember to our mindful breathing is
[1:09:33] very important but to remember
[1:09:39] the pain the suffering in the past and
[1:09:42] today
[1:09:44] how I am
[1:09:46] out of that pain out of that suffering
[1:09:49] it also gives me lots of joy and
[1:09:52] happiness.
[1:09:55] Thank you for your question.
[1:09:58] Um, your question
[1:10:01] helps me um
[1:10:05] talk about the nature of interbeing of
[1:10:09] uh suffering and happiness.
[1:10:12] And
[1:10:15] sometime we we just want okay the new
[1:10:18] year I just want a happy new year only
[1:10:21] happiness
[1:10:22] and I don't want any pain and suffering
[1:10:27] and this way of thinking is not right
[1:10:31] thinking
[1:10:33] because
[1:10:35] happiness [clears throat] is made of of
[1:10:38] uh suffering and if next here suffering
[1:10:43] comes to me, I can look at it with peace
[1:10:48] because I know that with the practice I
[1:10:50] can transform it into happiness.
[1:10:55] So I'm not afraid of suffering. I don't
[1:10:59] have fear of suffering.
[1:11:03] And we can have pain
[1:11:08] and we don't suffer.
[1:11:12] to um to end
[1:11:16] the the sharing today I I would like to
[1:11:19] tell you the story a very short story
[1:11:22] that may maybe many of you already know
[1:11:27] our teacher Thai
[1:11:31] one year he had a severe frozen shoulder
[1:11:35] he had lots of pain
[1:11:38] and that year he had to travel to Italy
[1:11:41] to have uh to conduct a retreat in
[1:11:44] Italy.
[1:11:46] And that morning
[1:11:48] he we saw him ready for the sitting
[1:11:52] meditation and looking at seeing his
[1:11:55] face we knew that we knew that he
[1:11:57] couldn't sleep last night. His face was
[1:12:01] very tired
[1:12:03] and as attendants we were very we worry
[1:12:07] and we were very shy and we we wanted to
[1:12:12] ask
[1:12:14] him what happened last night. We didn't
[1:12:18] dare to ask and then he said last night
[1:12:22] the pain was very deep.
[1:12:27] Okay. The sound of the bell from from
[1:12:31] Plum Village apps remind us to uh
[1:12:35] remind our brother to invite the bell.
[1:12:37] But I want to finish a story. You can
[1:12:39] invite later
[1:12:49] and then finish the talk.
[1:12:53] Do you want me to continue or to listen
[1:12:56] to the bell?
[1:13:02] I think it's it's better to listen to
[1:13:05] the bell.
[1:13:08] So, wait for a few seconds.
[1:13:29] >> [music]
[1:13:30] [bell]
[1:13:35] [bell]
[1:13:44] >> So we
[1:13:48] So We we were quite shy. We didn't ask
[1:13:52] yet the question. And then our teacher
[1:13:54] said that I couldn't sleep at all
[1:13:57] because the pain was so deep.
[1:14:01] But I'm really lucky because it's only
[1:14:05] on my left shoulder.
[1:14:08] [laughter]
[1:14:13] So I wish you all a happy time.
[1:14:17] um
[1:14:19] a clarity time and then a happy new year
[1:14:24] with lots of courage and
[1:14:30] inner strength
[1:14:33] and you can smile at anything that
[1:14:36] happens to you with peace
[1:14:40] and joy and solidity.
[1:14:43] Thank you.